A Reward For Good Behavior
Let’s say your lady did something particularly nice for you, and you want to reinforce her good behavior by giving her a reward. Here’s a fun and simple sexy game that any couple can play that tends to drive the women wild. It really only takes about a half an hour, plus whatever time she is going to need to fuck your brains out after you’ve driven her crazy with this technique.
Have her strip down to her bra and panties and lie down on her back on the bed. Blindfold her. If you haven’t yet picked out a blindfold just for her, improvise. Sometimes a pillowcase will do, just make sure she can breathe freely (very important!) Take off your belt and tie her hands together, with the belt looped around the bedpost. Your belt is good, especially for beginners, because it’s actually pretty easy to get out of one (don’t tell her that, you’ll spoil the mood) and it has a lot of psychological ramifications to it.
Remember – you have about 30 minutes. Caress her gently, run your finger around her stomach, down her legs, under her arms, over her lips. Take your time. At some point, introduce another sensation. Her hairbrush is perfect, the kind that have those clusters of black plastic wires. Rub it very gently on her body, in various places. This is a little more rough than your fingers and hands, and it’s a complex feeling, even more so when she’s experiencing sensory deprivation to some degree – she can’t see because of the blindfold. She’s also somewhat immobile.
You’ll notice you didn’t tie her feet down. That’s because as the game progresses, she’s probably going to start squealing and kicking her feet. That’s a good thing. Just watch that she doesn’t kick you in the head – safety first!
After the brush, you try various objects. You move from soft, to hard, to scratchy, to hot, to cold. Tickling can be torture for some women, so use it sparingly – but use it. This is “sensation play” and it keeps her guessing about what comes next. Feathers, various fabrics, ice, lotion, something heavy, something wet. Don’t over-do the honey and sticky things. You’re going to want to slap some areas, with your hand as well as the hairbrush and other items. Increase the sexual tension as time goes on, start undressing her (maybe, maybe not.)
Half way through, pick her up and turn her over – this will tighten the belt restraining her hands as well as surprise her somewhat, and give you a whole new palette to work on. It’s going to ramp her up a few notches so be prepared. This is a good time to start pulling her hair too – grab a lot of her hair, from the back, close to her scalp, and pull sort-of hard but let go quickly. Slap her ass. Escalate intermittently.
Twenty minutes of this is usually enough to put an inexperienced woman into sub space. If it’s her first time, be prepared for some crazy reactions. Don’t push too hard, think of it as advance and retreat, push-pull, escalate and de-escalate. She’ll be blissed out, with an elevated level of dopamine and increasingly turned on. Eventually fuck her, and start de-escalating after her orgasms. You need to untie her and hold her head against your chest afterwards, rub her head, and let her decompress. Full open palm rubbing of her whole body briskly, with a gradual slowing is a good way to take her from a high to relaxation. Always remember while a man often crashes quickly after an orgasm, women have to “step down” after one or two. She’ll likely fall asleep on you.
Remember though, this game is a reward. Do not spoil her, or she’ll be expecting it every night.