Someone said that feminism is a toxic mix of man-hate and man-envy. When another asked why women models are so often masculine, looking like boys with angular facial features and lacking typical feminine curves, someone suggested women are attracted to the masculinity in the women models just as they are attracted to masculinity in men.
I found some comments by a secular, leftist feminist woman who considered herself part of the “BDSM community.” There was (at least) one aspect of this “scene” she disapproved of: forced feminization. Forced feminization is where a submissive man who likes to be humiliated is “forced” to dress like a woman, in women’s clothing, has make up put on, and is humiliated by being called a “sissy” or mocked with sarcastic approval like “you’re such a pretty girl.” Whatever would cause a man to get off on such things is not as interesting as the feminist’s reaction to it.
She said this is inherently misogynistic, because it’s considered “negative” or “humiliating” for a man to be feminine. If it’s negative or humiliating for a man to be “feminized” then femininity must be inferior to masculinity, and women must be inferior to men, otherwise it would be something positive for a man to be feminized. It would be an ego boost, not humiliating or bad.
I will go out on a limb here and suggest most men reading this are going to be bewildered at this “logic.” If a man would be humiliated wearing women’s clothing, it’s because he hates femininity and thus hates women.
But what’s interesting is that feminism has always had an element of cross dressing, women dressing like men. Early feminists cut their hair short, to mimic men’s hairstyles. Women started wearing pants, at the time strictly an attire for men. Certainly early feminists were, in fact, verbally attacked as cross dressers. Consider career women and their pantsuits and short hair – this is clearly mimicking men’s attire. While it’s certainly understandable that a woman would not want to wear sexy attire in the workplace, the feminists didn’t adopt modest, feminine dresses. They took men’s clothing and altered them slightly.
Feminists do not feel humiliated dressing like men, instead, they feel it gives them some sort of power, almost like cargo cult masculinity. It doesn’t usually work this way in reverse, so therefore, misogyny, according to feminists.
This reminded me of another culture that is decidedly not feminist but actually has the same sort of women aping men’s clothing – the Heavy Metal music subculture of the 1970s to today. The “look” for a “metalhead” is generally jeans and a black t-shirt. Consequently, “rocker chicks” dress in the same was as their men: jeans and a black t-shirt. Perhaps not coincidentally, a lot of the heavy metal bands not only grew their hair long, but by the 80s were wearing so much makeup and had so much hairspray some could legitimately be described as “cross dressers” or “drag queens.”
The Occidental Observer once wrote a review of an AC/DC concert, memorably describing it as a “male fertility rite” and describing the few females there as “gyrating” and “probably not feminist.” Consider hair length; men and women both grow long hair naturally. At times long hair on men has been fashionable, and vice-versa. You can almost imagine this heavy metal male fertility rite going something like this – the men “performing masculine gender” by simultaneously both rejecting and adopting various parts of current female fashion or grooming styles. The female reaction to this is to mimic the men’s styles, to look as close to the men in attire and hairstyle as possible. At some point when everyone is genderless and gender neutral – a man is going to switch the polarity, and shave his head, thus once again increasing the “distance” between the genders.
To a feminist, wanting to be different than a woman is inherently woman hate – presumably, because (some) women mimic the masculinity they are attracted to.
Another man told a story of a girl he knew in high school. She never wore makeup, was somewhat of a “tomboy” and dressed in sloppy masculine style clothing. She was always “one of the guys.” But at some point she underwent a transformation – instead of trying to attract the attention of the men she was interested in by dressing like them and being one of the boys – she started wearing dresses and make up. Soon thereafter, she landed a boyfriend. Seems so obvious and intuitive but you can understand an immature young woman still not sexually experienced misunderstanding the dynamic.
It seems like feminists have gender identity disorder. While a normal woman will crave masculinity – in a man – feminists seem to crave masculinity in themselves, and then are outraged that a man would not crave femininity in himself. In fact, the desire of men to not be feminine is called “toxic masculinity” by feminists. But I don’t desire femininity in myself, I desire femininity in a woman.
That doesn’t make me a woman hater or a misogynist. In fact, it seems like it’s just the reverse – feminists hate their own femininity because they associate it with weakness. You would think the “women’s movement” would have created a culture and a movement around femininity – instead, it’s a movement and culture centered around women acting and dressing like men. Hence, in feminism, motherhood – perhaps the ultimate in femininity – is denigrated while abortion – killing, a stereotypical male trait of violence – is sacrosanct.
- Zooey Deschanel: A Lesson in Post-Feminism (letterstoophelia.wordpress.com)
- I am a Feminist (thereissomethingonmymind.wordpress.com)
- Should We Do Away With The Word Feminism? (shootingtruthbullets.wordpress.com)
- Feminism: The Good, Bad, and Lying. (thechurchforgotten.wordpress.com)
- Rebecca Goldstein on Micro Aggressions and The Mattering Map (secularpatriarchy.wordpress.com)
- Dear Feminists, (margeryandtheman.wordpress.com)
- Why I Hate Feminism (cszinegh.wordpress.com)
- Sometimes a Strap-On is Only a Strap-On (kisforkiah.wordpress.com)