BDSM Bullshit: How They Turned Good Sex Into A Kink

I’ve had an infestation of feminists lately, so I wrote this as essentially a disclaimer. I don’t even remember how all this started, I made some sort of “game” comment on MindWeapon’s blog and sort of accidentally “outed” myself as “into BDSM.” My original article about my favorite movie Secretary was an attempt to explain what I find interesting about the dynamic, then the freaks at Manboobz declared me a “misogynist” trying to “enforce my BDSM” – whatever the hell that even means – then I discovered SunShineMary’s article about ravishment fantasies, and her general take on submission inside and outside the bedroom, which is far closer to what I was really trying to get across. Then I just sort of ran with it, making some spanking jokes and all, and found out it’s the number one draw on the site.

So let me make this clear: I am not now, nor have I ever been, a member of the BDSM Community. I just find subbie girls adorable and charming. Mostly, for their sweet dispositions and pleasant attitudes.

The BDSM Community is the most ridiculously politically correct subculture imaginable, due to the community’s origin in the gay liberation movement in the 1960s. Average, married heterosexual couples were having a grand old time having lots of “kinky” sex with each other long before the BDSM Community showed up with their “Leather Pride” and “alternative lifestyle” shtick. The modern BDSM Community is almost a parody, or a mirror image, of “regular BDSM.” The BDSM Community is more about polyamory, homosexuality, exhibitionism, and fetishism than it is about the core practices of BDSM. The BDSM Community, in fact, represents a left wing attack on traditional marriage. The modern BDSM Community sort of developed in response to the feminist movement’s opposition to lesbians into bondage, as in my previous article about the Feminist Sex Wars.

Let’s take the BDSM Community slogan, “safe, sane and consensual.” Well, who could argue with that? Doesn’t it go without saying? Such a slogan is unnecessary in a traditional marriage. The wedding vows are consent, one of a husband’s main responsibilities is his wife’s safety, and the average person is assumed to be sane. Why all the focus on “consent?” That’s a reaction to the feminist doctrine that all heterosexual sex is rapey, women can’t truly consent to sex under The Patriarchy, and opposition to marriage where the husband is the Head of Household and the wife is submissive. The feminists were actually telling lesbians – who were feminists themselves – that it was bad that some of them were “butch” and some of them were “femme.” Hierarchy is bad, don’t you know, and all relationships must be “equal” – whatever the hell “equal” means in the context of a relationship. Let the feminists explain their objection in their own words:

“No one appeared to wonder whether this S-M proliferation was a lesbian copy of a faggot imitation of patriarchal backlash against feminism.” — Robin Morgan

That was the anti-porn feminist’s take on lesbian feminists who were either “butch” or “femme.” In a sense, Morgan may have been right, to a degree, the lesbians were mimicking the dynamics of a heterosexual relationship.

It’s interesting too that the pro-sex lesbian feminists used the term “danger” to describe their sexuality. Notice that while these original BDSM lesbians openly talked about how much “danger” turned them on, and how much of their sexuality revolved around “danger” – the modern BDSM Community is all about “safety” – the opposite of danger.

Again, such a focus is only necessary when you are talking bout near strangers hooking up with each other at sex clubs. Inside of an actual relationship, it’s overkill. It’s actually meant to ruin the fun.

Feminism: ruining sex for 60 years.

Remember in college when the feminists said that everyone must get “enthusiastic verbal consent” for each “escalation” in a sexual encounter? It was immediately and consistently made a joke by women and men. “May I put my hand on your breast? May I now kiss your neck?” To feminists, not getting a permission slip first was RAPE! Because to feminists, all sex under The Patriarchy is basically rape. Unless it’s lesbianism, then even child molesting is ok (see the Vagina Monologues.) So the BDSM Community puts all this emphasis on consent. In a traditional marriage, there’s no need for a permission slip, because you have the wedding vows. All this focus on enthusiastic verbal consent is only necessary in casual sexual relationships with people who are not committed to each other not just as sexual partners but also as part of a family.

Here’s the other thing. BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. You will notice there’s nothing in that initialism that has anything to do with urolagnia, coprophilia, homosexuality, polyamory, wife-swapping, or exhibitionism (look them up – or don’t) yet consistently practices such as these are grouped into “BDSM” – for a reason. The reason the feminists do this is to make what is normal – the dominant/submission dynamic in marriage – into something “kinky” by association with things that disgust average people.

It’s also why they try to turn BDSM into a “sexual orientation.” There’s virtually no discussion from the BSDM community that doesn’t include extreme outliers: homosexuals the most obvious case. What does a married couple doing BDSM have in common with two homosexual men doing BDSM? Nothing more than a married couple who enjoy oral sex have anything in common with two homosexual men who enjoy oral sex. Yet nobody says that “oral sex” is a “sexual orientation” or that it’s a “kink” practiced by “perverts.”

It’s the same with the BDSM Community’s focus on dominatrixes and submissive men. Both are extreme outliers – most women tend to be submissives and most men tend to be dominants. So they take the outliers and try to make them representative.

That’s the other thing, the BDSM Community wants to “reclaim” the word “pervert” like homosexuals reclaimed “queer” or black people reclaimed “nigger.” This is standard Oppressed Victim Progressive Politics. But subbie girls are not perverts, and neither are dominant men. The perverts are the BDSM Community trying to co-opt heterosexuals into their “community” by turning various BDSM games into a “kink” and a “lifestyle.”

The 24/7 D/s and M/s lifestyles look a lot like Christian marriage. People in such relationships are more likely to be in a Church community than the BDSM community.

Wife spanking – as a form of foreplay – and wife discipline – also a form of foreplay – used to be normal and even represented in Hollywood movies. From what I can tell, these were censored from television and film due to second wave feminism. So they suppressed these normal, average activities engaged in by many happily married couples – and turned them into a “kink” to be associated with “alternative lifestyles” and homosexuality and fringe practices such as urinating on someone.

See how that trick works? First, you make the normal perverted by association, then you allow the normal to be acceptable again, but only when associated with the perverted.

The BDSM Community will sneer that such things are “BDSM light” but so what? Most subbie girls are not pain sluts into needle play, and even girls who need some humiliation almost never want to be urinated on, for instance. That’s the feminist/BDSM Community trick: tell average men lies about women’s sexuality and that normal men’s sexuality is abusive, then try to define those normal dynamics as “sexually kinky” while associating them with extreme sexual practices and alternative lifestyles.

It’s not very different from the feminist double-talk saying that it’s terrible for a woman to marry at 19 and have children and make a family, but it’s just awesome for a 19 year old to be a liberated slut having promiscuous sex with hundreds of partners on birth control. A husband disciplining his wife with a sexy spanking is ABUSE RAPE but a random stranger at a sex club flogging a woman he doesn’t know is sexual liberation.

The Christians have a saying: “they call good evil, and evil good.”

But it looks like the feminists and the BDSM Community have suckered many Christians into their deception as well, because too many Christians seem to think that these normal BDSM practices are somehow deviant, even inside of marriage. Then the Christians wonder why their wives aren’t submissive and divorce them.

BDSM is not perverted. The BDSM Community however, is.

16 thoughts on “BDSM Bullshit: How They Turned Good Sex Into A Kink

  1. Why am I writing about this? Because for the last two years, virtually every women I know, from my 20 year old niece to my 50 year old friend, are all reading the 50 Shades books. For many people, they are discovering this dynamic for the first time. The “BDSM Community” (shudder) is at the ready to turn curious subbie girls into raging feminist bitches and trying to convince them to confine their natural submissiveness to sex play, thus, ruining these girls for a normal relationship like marriage. These girls will find themselves naturally wanting to submit to *their* man, but will fight it, because feminism sub-shamed them.

    “Sure it’s ok to be flogged by a stranger, but never make a sandwich for your husband – what are you, a doormat! Be a hard-charging career woman like us, not a wife and mother! Your vagina is not a clown car!”

    I know there are young guys from the “man-o-sphere” and TheRedPill that read this site, so be prepared. When your girlfriend wants something like this, don’t freak out or assume she’s weird or kinky. It’s actually extremely common and very normal.

    Like I said previously, I started doing all this stuff with my girlfriend in high school, thus, thankfully, was never brainwashed by the “BDSM Community” into thinking this was somehow “kinky” or related to weird sex practices, polyamory, homosexuality, or all the rest.

    Also, the Feminist Career Bitches that say “I like domination in the bedroom, but outside the bedroom I don’t take no shit from no man” – they are not in any way representative of the average subbie girl. Certainly, young men interested in marriage and a family should stay far away from such types, as feminist career women tend to make the worst wives, have the lowest fertility, divorce more often, and have unpleasant personalities.

    I’m completely serious, even the BDSM Community has said they are getting all sorts of interest from the 50 Shaders. It’s like a fight for the subbie girls. Once they get into the “BDSM Community” they are ruined. Plus, even the feminist cunts will admit this, the “BDSM Community” is full of outright (actual) rapists and abusers.

    Young men, this represents a great social opportunity to find a nice, sweet, submissive young women who will be good for marriage and a family. Just be sure you get one before the BDSM Community does.

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  2. “Wife spanking – as a form of foreplay – and wife discipline – also a form of foreplay – used to be normal and even represented in Hollywood movies. From what I can tell, these were censored from television and film due to second wave feminism.” What period of filmmaking are you referencing in the “used to” portion of your statement? Also, do you have specific titles you can mention or sources you can suggest for looking into the influence of second wave feminists in blacklisting such depictions from the screen? As an amateur film reviewer, I take some interest in Hollywood’s progressive degradation of sex roles in the movies over the years. I seem to have a vague recollection of seeing John Wayne spank Maureen O’Hara, but I could be mistaken.

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    1. @icareviews

      I seem to have a vague recollection of seeing John Wayne spank Maureen O’Hara, but I could be mistaken.

      I am not a film buff, but I did see that clip on youtube (no idea what movie it’s from), and some sort of compilation of various scenes from what seemed to be pre-60s films. I have no idea if the feminist movement had any sort of organized blacklist or anything though. That was all long before I was even born.

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  3. It’s still out there on movies, not into the guy’s ugly facial expressions but severe for Hollywood. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VTc3nSVk5sM

    I don’t even think it’s the BDSM community, it’s usually just women who can’t think outside the box that mess everything up because feminism in the west is silly (really, just silly when you compare it to women’s libs movements around the world). I can’t imagine any men being anti-bds unless his wife/gf is anti and he’s scared of her.

    Also some of us are feminists and love to be spanked and submissive to our men.

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    1. Lena,

      Interesting, thanks for the link. I thought your most popular spanking story was great and did a wonderful job of describing the psychology and emotions of a submissive masochist, in the context of a marriage.

      In America, to use the BDSM term of art, “power exchange” relationship are legally dubious, often dangerous for a man to engage in at all, leaving a lot of very frustrated women in relationships where the can’t get the domination they crave. Domination in the bedroom is extra work for a man, and too often women aren’t prepared to submit outside of sex play, so most men just don’t bother. It’s not worth the extra time, the extra risk, and the emotional complications from women who are still ashamed of their desires.

      Relationships are a give and take, feminism (the modern, third wave Anglo kind) teaches women to always take, and never give.

      So, we have this weird situation where married women sneak off to doms in the BDSM Community to get what their husbands won’t give them. Just like a man going to a prostitute to get a BJ their wife won’t give them.

      For men who are into casual BDSM sex with strangers, it’s like a golden age.

      I blame the Feminist Sex Wars. The compromise between the two feminist factions was that it’s ok to get beaten by a stranger at a sex club, as long as you don’t ever make a sandwich for your husband.

      I know, First World Problems. No wonder men are so hesitant to get married these days.

      BTW, Vive la Palestina 🙂

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  4. I didn’t know all this sneaking off to doms business instead of having your hubby take care of business was going on so much, how sad. And weird. Like if you think about it perverted that you want to be submissive for a stranger instead of the person who you’re committed to. If some guy I wasn’t married to tried to tell me what to do or spank me I’d be in jail for killing him.

    I don’t want to make sweeping generalizations but I lived in the U.K. and I think this weird hangup around BDSM is really American, North, in nature because these things are discussed more casually as normal in the U.K. Not all of it, but the BDSM aspect at least. I remember once being at a friend’s house and her husband came home and he was starving after working all day, we basically didn’t do much except get high that day so when he asked literally for a sandwich she said, “I’m not your slave make it yourself.” He turned to me and offered to pay me to make one for him, I got up and did it without charge of course and the whole time my mind was blown. If some woman offered to make a sammie for my hubby, there’d be big problems, dude. Big problems. DECLINING NOURISHMENT FOR YOUR FAMILY IS NOT FEMINISM, CAN WE ALL REPEAT THAT.

    Viva Palestina, indeedy 🙂

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    1. when he asked literally for a sandwich she said, “I’m not your slave make it yourself.” … DECLINING NOURISHMENT FOR YOUR FAMILY IS NOT FEMINISM, CAN WE ALL REPEAT THAT.

      Yeah, it’s stuff like that that makes American (and I guess Anglo) men pretty disgusted with feminism. I actually had a girl tell me this, that she would never make a sandwich for a man. Out of the blue, it was so weird. So of course I wrote her off as anything more than a fling.

      In America, feminism actually won all the real battles. Now it’s just women bitching about stuff. The big feminist “issues” in America among young feminists are *comic books* that don’t have sexy male characters that appeal to women, and that *video games* are sexist.

      First World Problems.

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  5. ❤ If only everyone understood that hot, passionate sex and pleasing your partner in general (even outside of the bedroom) are the acts that make great relationships. And often, you cannot have one without the other. ❤

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