I was sexually assaulted when I was about eleven years old by my best friend at the time. We were roughhousing, engaging in horseplay as we always did, and he pinned me on the ground and then, out of the blue, kissed me on my lips.
I didn’t know what to do or what that meant, so I did the first thing that seemed logical – I punched him in the face as hard as I could.
He got off me and said “ow!” and I got up. I don’t remember what happened afterward but by the end of the day we were friends again. It never came up, except for once, years later, when he mentioned it. I didn’t really want to talk about it as I found the whole episode rather embarassing.
Another time I was non-sexually assaulted; I went to an outside “kegger” with a friend, and as soon as I got out of the car, some guy who I had never met or seen threw a beer bottle right in my face and started screaming at me, daring me to fight him. He had a couple of his boys with him, and at two to four, so I slunk away, embarassed and ashamed. I brooded about it all night, sometimes making up heroic scenarios were I beat down the bully, but mostly I just felt weak.
If Ford’s testimony is 100% accurate – it’s no big deal. For her to nurse these childhood wounds is a symptom of narcissism, a classic tell tale sign. For most adults, the incident is a “life lesson.” The lessons she could have picked up from this is that sometimes people are violent, men can be sexually aggressive, and it’s not a good idea to get drunk around strange males.
Pound Me Too #MeToo is going to some strange places. Sexual misbehavior among teenagers needs to be dealt with by parents and community institutions like the church, when it becomes a political matter it becomes a criminal matter and that is a dangerous road to go down.
Hence, PoundMeToo isn’t going the legal route. Instead, they are settling for sub-legal punishments, typically involving getting people fired from their jobs, or never hired.
Jezebel.com lays out the plan, in their article The Next Step for #MeToo Is Into the Gray Areas
Jack Smith is a professional progressive that was just fired from the Social Justice Warrior company MIC.com after a couple of his ex-girlfriends/hookups got together and decided that he was “abusive” “coercive” and “withholding.”
They are explicit that they are not accusing him of doing anything illegal but instead “abusive” – not physically abusive, but emotionally abusive.
One women who claims she was in an active sexual relationship with him said, “he was sometimes emotionally detached, sometimes involved, and I got tired of the fact that he was obviously withholding things from me.”
Here’s a revealing statement from another of Smith’s lovers:
“I think that he has a pattern with women where he is able to figure out the thing that they are most sensitive and vulnerable about,” she says. “For me, that is that not only have I never been in a serious relationship, but just that I’ve never had like consistent trustworthy affection that I don’t know whether it’s gonna turn on and off at any moment. I think that he gave that to me for a month on purpose, and then only gave it back intermittently, like it was a game… After he groomed this part of me that is the most sensitive, the most scared, it felt like he then spent the next six months poking it, to fuck with me for fun.”
Playing head games is what women do in relationships, but it’s now quasi-illegal when men do it. If a woman breaks off a sexual relationship, it’s kosher, if a man breaks off a sexual relationship, it’s abusive, manipulative. You can get fired if your ex-girlfriend’s get together in their “whisper network” and give you bad grades. Bad in bed? Emotionally withholding? Too needy and clingy?
This is what making the personal political means.
How seriously should we take #MeToo and feminism in general? Consider, that none of these sexual issues are new, they are as old as humankind. Human cultures developed – quite haphazardly – institutions and norms to prevent these sorts of issues.
One is a legal drinking age of 21. Another is the segregation of the sexes, both Kavanaugh and Ford went to single-sex schools. Ford herself points out that she didn’t tell her parents what happened because she didn’t want her mother to know that she had been drinking with boys.
But none of the #MeToo feminists are interested in, say, bringing back monogamy, an end to underage sex, and aren’t particularly interested in prosecuting teenager girls who drink illegally or sneak into parties with boys.
Imagine how comical everyone would find it if men started accusing women of being “withholding” and “emotionally abusive” because of a few weeks long fling that ended badly?
When Jessica pulled me into a closet in tenth grade and turned the lights out, wrapped her arms around me without asking and stuck her tongue in my mouth, I didn’t feel entirely comfortable with it. I wasn’t really that into her. Did I now owe her something? Can she, 30 years later, accuse me of being “withholding?” Can I get her fired from her job for showing no interest in me afterward?
People will rightly say, it’s different for boys and girls because boys are stronger and more violent.
Indeed, that is the truth. Boys are stronger and more violent than girls.
Hence, we have those rules – no underage drinking and no going to parties with boys.
If the feminists have any suggestions, they are free to make them. Typically it’s “teaching boys to not rape.” Our entire culture and society does, in fact, teach boys to not rape. So now they are expanding the definition of “rape” to mean not calling the next day, coming too soon, being “emotionally withholding” or making a woman “feel pressured.”
They aren’t going to be happy until all men are exactly the way they want them to be, from puberty to old age. Any breach of the protocol – which changes on a woman’s whim, over time even – is, if not a crime, nevertheless worthy of punishment by public shaming or getting fired from your job.
This is how American women, especially Democrats and the progressives, are choosing to exercise power – emotional public presentations, sexual vulnerability, and a “mean girls” sub-political network. This might be a good tactic if they could keep it focused on conservatives and Republicans, but by nature these women having to strike near, not far. So it’s blowing up the left itself more than anyone, even if Kavanaugh loses.
There’s no “solution” to this “problem.” Eventually people will get tired of listening to women bitch about their relationships – especially, women who are promiscuous and have left a string of sexual and emotional chaos behind them. Don’t be misled that the idea behind this is to “protect women” or even to punish bad men. No feminist will encourage, say, a return of monogamy.
They don’t want to “solve the problem” – they just want you to listen – and if you don’t listen sympathetically, you’re abusive, emotionally controlling and probably bad in bed too.